The Unraveling of Fixing and Seeking Strategies
This is a time of unwinding. Your previous strategies for fixing, escaping, or transcending your core fundamental feeling of “I’m not okay” are no longer effective. You may find you can’t avoid life’s pain, yet no longer have the will to try to “fix” yourself. You might lose hope of attaining a perfected state, and begin feeling the distress of the core paradox. Although the deconstruction of your patterns and conditioning can be disorienting, this passage is crucial and prepares the ground for your whole-being realization.
Relaxing into the Core Paradox of Being Human
The core paradox is the inherent stress or tension at the core of your sense of self that you’d probably prefer to avoid. It results from being finite and limited, yet intuiting you are also infinite and divine, and is experienced differently by different people. This paradox can feel like separation, confusion, wrongness, inadequacy, angst, or yearning, and is often experienced most acutely prior to whole being realization. Once you realize there’s nothing wrong with you just because you’re having these feelings, and that the core paradox is inevitable and natural, you’ll find yourself relaxing into its inherent discomfort. After whole being realization, the core paradox continues to be experienced as a fundamental tension, but is no longer interpreted as something being wrong.
Whole Being Realization – the paradox is you
As you relax more fully into the discomfort of existing simultaneously as infinite and finite, divine and human, you recognize your identity has shifted to being this paradox. This fundamental shift may be gradual or sudden. It is often felt as a “landing” into self as never before, and actually changes your whole orientation to life. Your sense of self is no longer exclusively identified as the finite body-mind, or as infinite Consciousness, but now incorporates the entire spectrum of being, which includes everything and excludes nothing. Whole being realization is just the beginning of an ever-deepening journey of awakening and integration which over time becomes an embodied awareness that’s stable amidst life’s fluctuations.
This tacit knowing brings relaxation, openness, and well-being.
Integration & Transformation
After whole being realization, transformation occurs from your core outward. You will re-experience and release deeply held conditioning. Wounds and shadows come to light for healing and integration, and your radiance and brilliance are also evoked. This process is often cyclical, with awareness of shadow alternating with states of expansion. The authentic you can now come more fully alive. Engaging in active communication with like-minded others who can reflect your unique divine humanity is very supportive during this passage.
Wellness of Being – seamlessness
Over time, integration leads to greater trust and ease in the midst of life’s ups and downs, and to profound compassion for yourself and others. You really get how difficult it is to be here as a conscious, whole human being. You begin to experience extended periods of fundamental wellness and joy, which in turn enable you to enjoy life, embrace love, and express your natural gifts as never before. What was once a paradox—a rub at the junction of finite self and infinite potential—melds into the inseparable unity we call Onlyness. Life becomes, more and more, a dance of ease, grace, and profound wellness of Being.
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